Comments on: Early Engagement And Other Trends

By: Ouchs

Ouchs — Sat, 16 Jun 2007 19:01:14 +0000

I’m in a long term relationship, but I don’t think I get marry anytime soon and I’m turning 24 this december

By: Angie

Angie — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 05:08:47 +0000

I graduated from high school in the 80s, not too long after you were born in fact.

Anyway, some of my classmates did marry early, but a majority of those I reconnected with married in their mid to late 30s. I have tons of friends who STILL have not married. These are attractive professionals with a bent on career and such.

By: Michael Kwan

Michael Kwan — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 20:37:19 +0000

A couple of other things I neglected to mention in the other comment. You said that “people donâ€™t know who they are exactly until the age of 25.” I disagree. I’m only a few months away from 25, but I don’t feel that I completely know who I am yet. I’ve established my identity as a freelance writer, but there is still a lot of room for growth and development. That and the fact that the average person changes careers… I believe the figure is seven times in a lifetime. I’d argue that many people *never* know exactly who they are.

You also write “I try to imagine myself engaged to somebody, and it gives me the chills, and it is such an uncomprehensible reality for me.” I’ve been with my high school sweetheart since senior year in high school. We are neither engaged nor married, but I could imagine that if we were more financially secure/prepared.

By: Michael Kwan

Michael Kwan — Sun, 10 Jun 2007 20:33:32 +0000

It might depend on where you went to school. I graduated from a high school in East Vancouver in 2000 (I’m 24, 25 in October), and I’ve found about 40-some odd people from my grad class. Of these, I think only two or three are married/engaged.

My story is similar to yours, I suppose, except that I’m a few years older and I don’t have my own place yet. That and I do freelance writing whereas you do more visual and/or technical things. I haven’t looked into your bio, but considering that you’re in a business for yourself at 21, I’m assuming that you didn’t spend the 4-5 years at university like I did either. In retrospect, I probably could have gotten away with not getting the BA, but I have no regrets on that front.

I wrote a few posts on Facebook on my blog (just search for Facebook using the field near the top), including ways to exploit it in order to improve your RSS subscriber count. Might be worth checking out.

By: dotnetnuke

dotnetnuke — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 06:26:00 +0000

When marriage comes, you will be locked to one, only one.

By: Jeff Kee

Jeff Kee — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 00:41:24 +0000

If she’s hot, i’ll give it to her… then she’ll see a different world. She’s not one of them “i wont have extra-marital sex” type of virgins, is she?

By: msdanielle

msdanielle — Fri, 08 Jun 2007 00:21:53 +0000

i only have one female friend who has the “i have to be married by xx age” mentality. she’s very conservative, goes to church once or twice every weekend, and hasn’t dated very much. needless to say, i don’t fully see eye to eye with her. 99% of my friends are like me, and just want to have fun, hoping they’ll eventually run into someone cool to just date around. i wonder what the true ratio is these days of singles who have the “i have to be married…” syndrome…

By: Nomar

Nomar — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 13:54:51 +0000

hehe cool story Jeff !! Like it..

and damn you have a huge RSS button !

By: Jeff Kee

Jeff Kee — Thu, 07 Jun 2007 08:52:57 +0000

A life-crisis is, in some ways, always happening. The world changes, people change, and we change… 25 is a statistic i read somewhere, although I find a lot of peopel who are over 30, living the fabulous single life and yet still not ready to “settle down” or “cash it in”.

The thing I find really stupid is when some girls say “I’m gonna get married at 2X.”

WHo the hell knows if you will find somebody right for you at that exact age? Who the hell is to guarantee the standard course of life?

You’re right, you never miss out on anything - it’s just a stream of life, and it’s a course that your life takes you through. No regrets.

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By: msdanielle

msdanielle — Wed, 06 Jun 2007 07:25:10 +0000

why are you thinking about 25? it sounds like you’re having a pre-quarter-life-crisis crisis. don’t worry about it. for me, i couldn’t imagine being engaged at 25 (which was 5 years ago). i can’t even imagine being engaged at 35. but if i meet that misfortune in 5 years so be it… it’s all a matter of being happy in the now. and if you’re worried about missing out on anything, then just imagine what you’re missing out on and go do it. half of it probably won’t be as exciting as you think. then you’ll know once you’re in your relationship that you didn’t miss anything at all, and that you’re right where you should be.

By: Jeff Kee

Jeff Kee — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 17:55:56 +0000

That’s exactly my point and its great to see people who understand!

By: dotnetnuke

dotnetnuke — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 06:37:06 +0000

I don’t like meeting my old school friends over net, i prefer face to face meetings.

By: 2 BROS BLOGGING

2 BROS BLOGGING — Tue, 05 Jun 2007 04:06:58 +0000

I’m 35 and single. I can’t imagine getting married at 22 or even at 25. The reason is that I was a totally different person at 22 than I am now. At 25 I was totally different that me at 22 and a 180 from me at 35. Also, the number of women I meet in their 30’s who are divorced is crazy. Most of them say that they got married too young and didn’t know what they wanted.

By: Jeff Kee

Jeff Kee — Mon, 04 Jun 2007 23:50:50 +0000

It’s not that i’m against marriage, I just dont’ want to be part of teh statistic of young crazy fools rushign into it and then realizing tehre are other things in life that you need to align yourself to.